How do you deal?

How do you deal with your pain? When someone you love hurts you, how do you approach the situation? Do you cry by yourself? Do you get angry? Do you confront the person? I have a tendency to get angry. So angry that I can't see straight. I say things and do things that I am not proud of. But am I justified? If someone I trust hurts me, do I have the right to tear them apart? Should I be able to make them feel as bad as I feel? And if I do that, what am I accomplishing? At the time, I do everything in my power to try and make the person understand why I am hurt, and I want them to apologize and feel as crappy as I do. But thinking about it, am I just as bad as the person who hurt me? Would I be better if I cried alone and then approached the person who hurt me? Sure I would make more sense that way, and I wouldn't be so passionate, but would I be able to get my point across? Is getting my point across even that important? Who knows.......